Handling Temptations in Marriage
Joyce Obideyi

Text: 1 Cor. 10:13, There hath no temptation taken you such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.
How to Handle Temptations in Marriage
1. Build Strong Foundations Together
a. Spiritual unity: Pray together, study scripture together. Temptation is easier to resist when you’re both drawing from the same source of strength.
b. Shared vision: Keep reminding yourselves why you chose each other — “destined forever” means guarding that covenant/vision/vow. The family that stays together will build together.
2. Respect for Each Partner Respect is choosing to honor your spouse in words, actions, and thoughts — especially when no one is watching.
What it looks like:
a. In communication: No insults, sarcasm, or shouting. Speak to build up, not tear down.
b. In decisions: Involve each other. “Shared responsibility” means both voices matter.
c. In public & private: Defend your spouse, don’t embarrass or expose them to others.
d. In differences: Disagree without disrespect. You can say “I see it differently” without saying “You’re wrong/stupid.”
e. In boundaries: Protect your spouse’s dignity. Don’t share their weaknesses with friends/family as gossip.
Disrespect creates distance. Distance creates room for someone else to come in and “make you feel valued.” When respect is constant, your spouse remains your safe place. Couples who respect and speak positively about each other are far less vulnerable to temptation, because their emotional and spiritual needs are being met at home.
3. Positivity about Your Marriage
Positivity is choosing to see, speak, and invest in the good of your marriage — even during hard seasons.
What it looks like:
a. Speak well of your marriage: Instead of “Marriage is hard,” try “We’re growing stronger together.”

